Verses 1–4
A Good Lesson Goes Forth Through Generations
The father appeals to his children to listen to his instruction and to give attention, that they “may gain understanding” (Proverbs 4:1). A father seeks the best for his children and gives them only what is useful to them. He will not give them wrong things (Luke 11:11-2 Kings :). The best he can give is something that serves to increase understanding in God’s thoughts about how life should be lived.
The father is convinced that he teaches his children “a sound [lit good] teaching” (Proverbs 4:2). It regards the sound doctrine, he gives sound teaching which therefore has a sound effect. That is quite different to what false prophets and false teachers do, who say what the people want to hear (Isaiah 30:10; Jeremiah 5:31; Ezekiel 33:31-Jonah :; Galatians 1:6-Judges :; 2 Timothy 4:3-Numbers :). They tell stories that are received well by the religious people, but through which they lead them to destruction. That’s not the way the father speaks to his sons. He teaches them God’s Word and orders them not to abandon his teaching and not to let themselves to be dragged by nice talking preachers.
In Proverbs 4:3 the father underlines what he said in Proverbs 4:1-Exodus :. The conjunction “for” indicates that. He speaks to his sons as somebody who knows what it means to be “a son” to his father, for he himself has also been a son. When he recalls that time, he sees how “tender” he was (1 Chronicles 22:5; 1 Chronicles 29:1). He then felt as “an only child” in the sight of his mother, secured of here tender attention and care.
It is a blessing if we also could recall our parents like that in the time that they were still taking care of us. An increasing number of children cannot. What those children can still do, is to make sure that their children will remember them like that.
Here we have the family again as the atmosphere in which education and teaching take place (Deuteronomy 6:6-1 Samuel :). We see here again (Proverbs 1:8) that the teaching that is given by the father or the mother, is not given in a formal, academic, scholastic way, but out of personal involvement, with warmth and love. This is undoubtedly the best way of teaching.
The father passes on to his children what his father has told him (Proverbs 4:4). He is not making up what he is telling them, but he in his turn has heard it from his father. Also his father took the time to teach his son. A father does that when he is aware of his responsibility to help his children make good choices in life. Fathers have to bring up their children “in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).
We hear the voice of experience resonating in the generations (cf. Deuteronomy 6:2; 2 Timothy 1:5; cf. Job 8:8-2 Samuel :). That makes the teaching on wisdom a valuable tradition throughout the generations. It is also an encouragement for the sons, for they know in that way that the experiences that they are going through are also the experiences of their father. It is the shared experience and it is not an imposed behavior. That makes the teaching attractive. Photographs and anecdotes can show the youngsters that their father has also been young and inexperienced and that he had taken the place towards his father which they are now taking towards him.
Personal fellowship with God cannot be transferred, but can surely be shown and made attractive, through which the desire is being stimulated to possess it also. Solomon had seen the intimacy that his father David had with God and that had made him jealous. Solomon has surely also seen the sins of his father. But that does not prevent him from teaching his sons, because he also saw the dismay that his father had of his sins.
That also goes for the church in spiritual sense. This is why Paul also tells that to Timothy by saying: ”You, however, continue in the things you have learned and become convinced of, knowing from whom you have learned them” (2 Timothy 3:14). It is a great privilege when we have a ‘spiritual genealogy’, when we learn from the previous generations and pass that on to those who come after us (2 Timothy 2:2). We shall do that when we are fully convinced that what we have learned, is in accordance with the Scripture.
In Proverbs 4:4 the father lets his father, the grandfather of his sons, speak. Grandpa speaks and he definitely has something to tell. It seems like he is talking up to Proverbs 5:6, for in Proverbs 5:7 we again hear how the father addresses his “children”. The grandchildren will do well when they listen well to what their grandpa said to their father. Their father passes that on to them, so that they may profit from that. That profit is nothing less than life.
That the father does this, proves that he is fully committed to convince his sons about what he says, to let them go the way of wisdom and to guard their lives against corruption. This should be the drive of all parents for each child that has been entrusted to them. It is an intention of the heart, that says: ‘As far as it depends on me, my children will not perish, but become faithful servants of the Lord.’ That grace has to work this, does not change anything of the effort that is expected of the parents.
In order to have profit, he, the son, must above all hold fast to the words that his father has spoken to him. It is about the heart, not the intellect, although that is not separated from it. If the heart holds fast to the words, those words will be considered to be “commandments”, they will act accordingly in the practice of life. Then life will be lived as God has intended it; it will be experienced with all the blessings which a life in obedience to God hides in itself.