Relationship Between Employer and Employee
It is not enough to teach a slave obedience by words alone (Proverbs 29:19). There is no perfectly obedient slave. That was only the Lord Jesus. A slave, or worker, must learn to obey, because he is disobedient by nature. Disobedience must be punished not only by words but also by other, tangible, disciplinary means. We can think of getting no food as punishment or temporarily withholding certain privileges he enjoyed.
If there is no tangible discipline, the slave will just do his own thing. The master, or employer, can talk and command whatever he wants, he doesn’t react. He hears what is asked for and understands it, but he simply doesn’t do it because he doesn’t feel like it or because it doesn’t suit him.
It is important to teach obedience in the family (Proverbs 29:17) and in society. The authority of parents, the employer, the government and, above all, God, must be obeyed. Anyone who does not learn to obey in earthly relations will not bow to God either, with the dramatic consequence of eternal judgment.
The Christian is a slave of Christ and as such must be taught obedience. In the Word of God he hears what Christ asks of him. The Christian is not always obedient to what Christ says. Then He disciplines him out of love (cf. Revelation 3:19). In so doing He leads him to do what He hath commanded him to do.
Because Proverbs 29:20 is between two verses that are about slaves, we can perhaps connect this verse in the first place to that subject, without ruling out a broader application. A person who only speaks to his slave, but who does not receive a response (Proverbs 29:19), loses his patience and is “hasty in his words”. This applies to all interpersonal relations.
Anyone who reacts out of irritation reacts impulsively, rash. It is not an incident, it is a habit. Someone who only speaks can see his strength in this, while he is blind to the fact that it is his sin. If he is not listened to, he will speak even more words. He is certain of his case, he does not think about it, he does not consult and he cannot be corrected. The warning is that we have to be slow to speak (James 1:19; Ecclesiastes 5:2).
It’s better to be dealing with a fool than with a fast talker. There is “more hope” that something meaningful comes out of a fool than out of a fast talker. This is an indication of the hopeless case of the fast talker. That one does not have time to listen. A fool lacks wisdom, but sometimes he takes the time to listen to what is being said.
As in Proverbs 29:19, in Proverbs 29:21 the error lies with the master. Here is the master’s mistake of pampering his slave. In this way he gives him the feeling that he is not a slave, but a family member. You would expect the slave to be grateful to him for that, but the opposite is the case. By pampering his slave, he arouses certain expectations in him, that he is a son and that he will share in the inheritance.
Such unfounded expectations are the result of imbalances. The master is responsible for this. He must ensure that the master-slave (employer-employee) relationship is properly respected. The boss must tell the employee what to do. This has nothing to do with domination, but with the recognition of God-given relationships of authority.