Verses 1–6
Love and Confidence
This concluding chapter contains a number of exhortations for the Christian life. They fit in the sphere of the whole letter, for that is indeed about the path of the Christian on earth. The main theme of this chapter is the theme of love. It directly starts with the brotherly love, which is followed by love for strangers, for prisoners and in marriage.
Although the word ‘love’ is not mentioned anymore thereafter, you can taste that in the following section it is also about love, like the love for the Lord Jesus and for God and for the leaders in the midst of believers and for all saints. If you imagine that in chapter 11 it is about faith, in chapter 12 it is about hope and in this chapter it is about love, then you will surely discover in these concluding chapters the great riches for the life of the Christian.
Hebrews 13:1. At the end of the previous chapter your focus is on an everlasting ‘unshakable kingdom’ (Hebrews 12:28). That’s something to look forward to. But there is one more thing that remains unshakable to eternity and that is “love of the brethren”. That is what the writer starts his exhortations with here. The reason why the writer exhorts to do that, may be because of the disappearing of the brotherly love.
The company of believers to whom he was writing, was constantly living under pressure. Each of them felt the pressure personally. That can ultimately be that burdensome that one may feel to be left alone. In such a case you feel no solidarity anymore with your fellow believers. In that case it is important not to accuse your brothers of unwillingness to help you. They might be facing hardships just like you. Just continue to love your brothers and sisters in that case. If they cannot give you what you would love to have, then perhaps you may give them what they need.
Hebrews 13:2. The next form of love is “hospitality”. ‘Hospitality’ literally means ‘love for strangers’. Brotherly love is love that is inwardly focused, while love for strangers is love that is outwardly focused, both to believers and unbelievers. That exhortation is also needed, because in time of tribulation or need the inclination is present to withdraw. You have enough troubles yourself. What could therefore be the sense of being interested in the worries of others and yet of strangers? This could be the reason for you to withdraw. But that is not right.
Have you ever felt to be a stranger, helpless and looking for someone who cares about you? Anyway, God has cared about you in Christ. Because of that you are obligated to show love to strangers (and those are not only asylum seekers). You can do that by offering them a meal, a bed or another form of help.
In this way you possibly even accommodate angels. That’s what Abraham (Genesis 18:1-Ruth :) and even Lot (Genesis 19:1-Leviticus :) experienced. And what about the two who went to Emmaus? Of course the Lord Jesus is not an angel, but to them He at first was certainly a stranger Whom they urged to abide with them. Without knowing that they took the Lord Jesus into their house (Luke 24:29-Obadiah :). And is it not the Lord Who says that if you welcome anyone who belongs to Him, He acknowledges that as though you have welcomed Him (Matthew 25:35; Matthew 25:40)? Hospitality is an attitude, a spiritual mind that more often adorns women than men.
It should make no difference whom we welcome. In the world people often want to welcome others for their own benefit. It may deliver you some regard when you welcome somebody in your home who has a high status or a person of influence. But our love should be expressed to people whom we do not know and who are in need of help. That applies in a general sense and certainly also to those who went forth for the sake of the Name of the Lord Jesus (3 John 1:5-Ruth :). We can also apply that to strangers who step into the church. How do we welcome them? Do we talk with them or do we look hazily at them? Do we want them to feel accepted and at home or does their presence make us feel uncomfortable?
Hebrews 13:3. Again a different form of love is that for prisoners. Of course it is about those who are imprisoned for the sake of the Name of the Lord Jesus. You may show your love to them by paying them a visit. In that way Onesiphorus sought Paul out when he was imprisoned in Rome. He made efforts to find Paul (2 Timothy 1:16; cf. Philippians 1:7). Such an opportunity is not reserved for everyone. What all believers surely are able to do is what is said here: to remember them. That doesn’t mean that you just occasionally pray from them, but that you try to imagine yourself in their situation. Paul also asks the Colossians to remember his imprisonment (Colossians 4:18).
In remembering those who are mistreated you go a step further. You not only remember the circumstances, but also the suffering of pain. For you to really empathize with the situation and with the suffering of another person is often difficult. You then have to put your mind to committing yourself to it. It’s about practicing what is true for the body of Christ, namely that when one member suffers, all members suffer together with him (1 Corinthians 12:26). Now we live in a time of individualism, whereby everyone lives for oneself. This should not be the case among believers. How is your confidence in your brothers and sisters? Do you allow them to get to know you? Are you open for others out of the solidarity you have with them?
Maybe your problem is not so much in this sense, but it is more the multitude of activities. Because of that you are not able to take a closer look at what others are enduring. Or you are not able to consider others, because you think that you also need some recreation. Still the command is to remember others. We receive on a regular basis reports from believers who are imprisoned and/or are mistreated. Take notice of them; try to imagine what they are going through and pray for them.
An application I would want to make, is with the view to those who are captured in a certain way of thinking. In this way they cannot truly be freed in Christ. If you encounter such people you should try to sympathize with them and stand beside them, in order to help them to get out of it together.
Hebrews 13:4. After the brotherly love and the welcoming home, the writer points at the importance of marriage. He wants marriage and all things to “be honorable among all”. It goes without saying there is no brotherly love and neither a welcoming home when marriage is a farce. Marriage being honorable means that there is faithfulness to the institution and the practice of it.
Therefore the writer focuses on the sexual intercourse. Marriage should be honorable to both married and unmarried people. To the married people this means that the bed (said in other words: the sexual intercourse) should only be shared with the man or woman a person is married to. To the unmarried people this means that there should be no sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse before marriage is fornication; sexual relation by married people outside their own marriage is adultery. Both are an abomination in the sight of God.
In the world marriage has been degraded to a form of living together. The order for you is to keep marriage in its original intention and to give it substance. You are not to adjust God’s standard to that of the world. To be able to keep God’s standard, you are to continually give it the right place in your thinking and in your heart. If you feel the inclination rise not to take it too seriously, you must judge that. Let yourself be reminded to remain clean in this and also remind others continually of it. Holding on to this institution of God brings blessing; abandoning it brings curse. Fornication and adultery often begin secretly, hidden from others. But God sees it and nobody who commits them escapes from His judgment.
Hebrews 13:5. Then a warning follows to beware of another form of love that is not of God and that is “the love of money”. Sexual covetousness often goes together with financial covetousness (Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5). The love of money is a root of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10).
The love of money is present when you want more than the Lord gives you. That is for example the case when you participate in strikes for more wages. The order is that you are “content” with the things you have. Isn’t it often the case that you want to have the Lord Jesus together with some earthly securities, like a certain bank account balance and a well paid job? Do you really trust in the Lord alone? You are heartily invited by the writer to do so. Therefore he reminds you of the promise of the Lord that He will never desert you, nor ever forsake you.
Hebrews 13:6. Yet that promise only becomes reality when you say: ‘The Lord is my Helper.’ God is saying something on the one hand and you can say and proclaim that the Lord is your Helper. Do you dare to say that loudly to the people around you? You don’t have to seek for nice words. You can, just like it is said here, boldly testify with words that come from the Word, words that God puts in your mouth. When you are being attacked you may say what is written in God’s Word.
Still, you may often not dare to do that, because you’re afraid to be punished for your bold confession. But still it remains true. When people say: ‘Where is that God, why does He allow this in your life?’, then you can still say confidently: ’The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid. What will man do to me?”
Now read Hebrews 13:1-6 again.
Reflection: Which forms of love (both positive and negative) appear in this section? What do they mean to you?